Nigerian woman identified as Dr. Adeola Olubamiji share her story on her official Twitter handle on the hardest decision she had to made between love and her PhD program.
Dr. Adeola is among the Top 100 Powerful women in Canada. She shares the story as a source of inspiration and motivations for young women facing challenge or hard times decision in life.
Below is the post from her official Twitter handle:
“I met a guy back in Finland. We were both students by day and cleaners by night. But he was madly in love with me. You could tell him anything about me and he would still love me”
“Suddenly, I got a PhD admission and full funding in Canada! And it became clear that I was going to move to Canada and leave him behind. Guess what? He proposed! Chei! What was I supposed to do when I know he could kill himself if I said no. Well, I said yes.”
“But made it clear, I am going to Canada and going alone! If you want me, get yourself to Canada by school or any other method 😃. I am not staying back to marry and have kids while we would both be cleaners and be madly poor and madly in love.”
“I left for Canada. With time difference and PhD student stress, the relationship became a burden. I am realistic, so I let this good man go! Told myself there will be other good men in the future. For now, let me face making myself a real, successful and good woman.”
“I risked turning that man down. My mates started having kids over 10 years ago. They were already becoming managers in banks in Nigeria and here I was living in a basement collecting next to nothing as stipend and working as a sales girl and getting kicked by PhD thesis”
“After realizing worrying can’t help me, I decided to face my PhD, finish it, get a job and stay in my lane happily. “
“Na late I late, I no kill person! I decided to remove pressurizers from family and community out of my network and make Jesus and my career my friends.”
“Two years later, the best man for me came. I was in a happy place. A PhD holder, have a job, a car and saving to buy a house. I had built something for myself and was ready to start building with someone. This man is the greatest supporter I have ever known.”
“My accountant, my reset button, my calculator 😃. God indeed have His ways.“
No, he wasn’t flashy, he is fine, black and has plenty hair 😃. My Nigerian American Prince, the chess player from Mushin ❤️. God used him to shut all the naysayers and community gossipers up.”
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“We have now continued to build a life that amazes me. God moved the goal post and He is still moving it right now in my life. Delay doesn’t mean denial and some delays actually position you in a better place”
“May be I would have been able to do all these if I had married the man, may be not. But one thing for sure, I HAVE ZERO REGRETS”
“Dear young girl and PhD scholars panicking about love and career. You got this!”
You will also be just fine. Get a life, get to a happy place and everything else will work fine. Focus on you and everything you can control,sending you all my love as you go thought this Valentine week.”
“Lastly, any destiny-stopper that want to use marriage to stop your progress, May Holy Ghost fire consume them and their plots,You deserve to have kids when you can take care of them.”
“Any gossiping family members putting pressure on you, may God silence them!”Amen!
“To those asking what if he was rich, this is my experience and I alone know the full story. No need calculating.”
“Some women want our lives, careers and more first. So, we can be contributors in the marriage and not dependents. No need trying to fight my experience. Rest “
“Would the guy have proposed when he did if I didn’t get the admission? I think he wouldn’t.”
“This post is about risks, sacrifices, decisions and getting my life together before prioritizing marriage
This isn’t the only way. I chose this way and happy I did. No regrets.”
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CREDIT: ALLSCHOOL TEAM, TWITTER (@Dr.Olubamiji)
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